People get fearful, and they take it out on other people in the workplace. It’s not always a boss who gets fearful around you. It could just as easily be a co-worker or even a friend or family member.

Here are ten ways people will try to hold you back — if you let them:

 

1. They will pick at you over tiny or imaginary infractions or slights — to keep you off guard and doubting yourself.
2. They will tell you that your aspirations are too grand. They will tell you that you ought to be more humble and set less ambitious goals.
3. They will remind you of your faults.
4. They will criticize your ideas and plans even when they are not knowledgeable about the subject matter.
5. They will say negative things about you to other people.
6. They will marginalize you and discount your accomplishments.
7. They will ignore you in hopes that you’ll get the message and dim your own flame.
8. They will send you messages that you’re upsetting them — leaving you out of communication loops, praising other people but not you, and generally dissing you whenever they get the chance.
9. They will outright attack you and/or your ideas through a smear campaign.
10. They will try to get you fired, or try to prevent you from being hired.

It is shocking and hurtful when your boss, your teammate or your friend turns into an enemy, but it is important to understand why it happens. It happens because you singed that person with your growing flame.

In your life you will work for good and bad bosses. You will have true friends and fake friends at work and elsewhere, and you will run into frenemies who pretend to be your friend so they can get close enough to stab you in the ribs. It’s hurtful and discouraging to run into barking dogs on your path, but it’s good learning too.

You will learn something every time you step away from a person who is trying to tear you down and hold you back. In fact, learning to walk away from unhealthy relationships is a critical part of your  evolution as a person.

You have a path to follow, and no time for people who can’t see past their own fear to appreciate your talents.

https://www.forbes.com/sites/lizryan/2017/07/16/ten-ways-people-will-hold-you-back-if-you-let-them/#3d8d295c29f1

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